Motherhood to me is a process of learning about myself all over again. You learn about your strength and limitation. You learned about how strong you can be when you need to protect your child. (And yes, even if you need to hit a cockroach)
Motherhood is also about learning how to love once again. You never know how much you can love until your newborn came into your life. You never knew how much your parents had loved you all these years and them trying to give you all they had.
Motherhood is no doubt challenging, no matter how old your child going to be, be it 1 day old, 1 month old, 1 year, or even 30 years old, you will always worry about them but there are no regrets because the love you have for each other is unlimited and selfless.
Motherhood is about growing with your child. Every parent is once a child, never afraid to show your weakness or limitation, instead give yourself another chance to grow up better & stronger again.
Kudos to all mothers in the world. You are the best! ❤️
Too much memories! I remembered that before I found out I was pregnant, I felt so fatigue,d and I was napping for hours during the weekend, thought that I was going to fall sick. And then, later on, realized that it was one of the first trimester symptoms. I remember vomiting in the car and train station endless times.
I love the feeling of my little one being inside my belly and I feel like I am protecting her all the time. She listens to my every conversation (and singing) and would respond to me by kicking or punching me from within. Really missed those times!
I dislike the first trimester symptoms and also the disrupted sleep during the last trimester. I was constantly having cramps on my calf middle of the night and my back was hurting because I couldn’t find the best position to sleep. Every sleep posture can’t last me long.
Her (my toddler’s) happiness. The moment she laughed, I felt that everything is worth it. All the time spent, all the effort, and sacrifices are worth it. Every time she learned a new skill or learned a new word just amaze us how quickly she picked up things. From learning how to latch from birth to how to crawl/sit/ stand/ walk and now learning to run and jump, etc.
My heart is full every time we have our family time together. She has brought so much joy to us and our extended family. Her naïve reminds me of how simple happiness can be. It can be by eating our favourite food, wearing our favourite clothing, or doing our favourite activities.
There were definitely a lot of challenging moments. One of them will be my breastfeeding journey. I breastfed for close to 15 months. From the start of the journey, I was an oversupply mom and I had really bad breast engorgement 1-2 weeks after delivery. It was a very painful and uncomfortable experience back then. Till later on when I got back to work, I need to do the milk pumping in the office which does not have a nursing room, and thus I need to do it in a small room where the cleaners used to rest and keep their belongings. Everywhere I go, I will have to bring a backpack with all the “equipment” I need to keep my supply fresh.
Another challenge is losing “ME TIME”. During the first year of being a parent, I basically lose all my me time. There is no time to spare, to do my hobby/ passion, no time to meet my friends/ having many social activities. There is no time to even read a good book or watch a good movie. There are times that I break down because I was too exhausted from disrupted sleep. Imagine every 2-3 hours during the night, I need to feed my child, and then during the day, there are piles of work waiting for me as well. Not to mention that the milk pumping exercise has taken up some of my working time as well.
Spent lots of time with them. You only get to go through this age with them once, don’t waste it. This is the most precious time they ever go through. It’s THE time they gain their confidence and build their great character by having lots of love from their parents. And be focus when you are with them, no Facebook or Instagram scrolling. Not watching TV all time. But play with them, take them outdoors and let them be KIDS all they want.
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